Take a step to go back to your bookstore the advice section and you will learn every trick in the book to hook a man and settle down before he even knows what hit him. Anyone who has actually tried these tips can tell you they come with more than a few broken promises, probably in large part because most books are written by actresses, writers and comedians. But actually study dating expert-like, as a science and they have their own dating advice to dish out. For details on how to keep secrets on the first date to do for upping your chances, dating experts share with you their top tips for finding love.
1) Talk about yourself half the time.
Once on a date with someone who thinks that his own beautiful self guarantees a two hour monologue? According to one study, on a date to go well, people talk about themselves half the time, so many open their airwaves to insert date. Difficult to date, the balance shifts, with 60 percent of the focus on one person. (Beyond that, it’s rescue call-of-the-bathroom area.) The point is not to count your words, it is to share a bit about yourself while showing interest in another person. “The dates are flexible because people seem warmer,” said Paul Eastwick, PhD, assistant professor of psychology at Texas A & M University. Please call flows naturally back and forth, throw in a little flirting, laughing, smiling, body language, and that’s a ticket for a second date.
2) Be agreeable (but smart).
To clicked on a date, you want to find a common basis. Studies show that more great people tend to be more successful dates, probably because they avoid the dreaded awkward pause. “Disagree is a conversation killer,” Eastwick said. The only thing that tells you what the two of you are not common. Still, you never want to feign agreement. “There is a way to distort it without your own opinion,” Eastwick said. For example, if your date says he’s a travel nut, but you love for the one-mile radius around your apartment, you can just confirm that he is adventurous sounds. Of course you also seem to be pleasant. If you smile and nod your way through dinner, you can make a very attractive bobble-head, but you’re not a very stimulating date. You want to participate in the conversation, and trust with an advice show. But make sure your comments encourage conversation instead of stifling it.